Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women’s friendship learning community. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a friendship expert in the media appearing on such shows as Katie Couric and the Today Show.
Shasta Nelson is passionate about all things friendship. As founder and CEO of GirlFriendCircles.com— the female-friendship learning community in over sixty cities throughout North America where women of all ages go to make local friends—she speaks and writes regularly on this important topic.
She is the author of two books: Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of Girl- Friends and Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness. Her spirited and soulful voice can also be read at Shasta's Friendship Blog and in her relationship health column in The Huffington Post. She delivers keynote addresses, teaches workshops, hosts retreats, and facilitates Friendship Accelerator and Speedfriending events in the U.S. and Canada.
She’s been interviewed on the Today show, Katie Couric’s show Katie, The Early Show, and on Fox Extra. She’s been consulted on friendship matters by writers and reporters from such magazines as Cosmopolitan, More, Real Simple, Redbook, and Good Housekeeping, and from such newspapers as The New York Times, Chicago Tribune, and the San Francisco Chronicle.
But while her work is incredibly meaningful and important to her, it is her relationships that mean the most. She’s married to her best friend, Greg Nelson, is honored to be a stepmom to his three amazing kids, and is encircled by girlfriends, family members, and a community that enrich her life. They not only are the gym where she practices growing into a more compassionate, brave, and loving person—they are the people whose laughter and deep conversations fill her life and her soul.
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Shasta Nelson is a friendship expert who writes, speaks, and gives media interviews to teach all of us how to create healthier and more fulfilling relationships in our lives. She has published two books, both which she has a few copies of with her today if you’d like to buy one and have her sign it afterward. Her most recent one came out in the Spring and is titled: Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness. She is also the Founder of an online women’s friendship community— GirlFriendCircles.com— where members have the opportunity to meet new friends and learn how to do their friendships better. She writes for the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and has been a guest on TV shows such as Katie Couric and The Today Show, featured in countless national magazines like Good Housekeeping, Real Simple, and Health, and interviewed for the New York Times and on NPR. But today we have her with us so please join me in welcoming Shasta Nelson.
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GirlFriendCircles.com is "the gym membership for better friendships." With 75% of women wishing for more in their friendships, it's time to do something about it.
GirlFriendCircles brings together the women who not only know just how important better friendships are, but who are also willing to do something about it!
As part of the monthly membership, women can:
- Be Inspired with a new Friendship Focus every month designed to develop your friendship muscles
- Learn from the monthly 1-hour class taught by an expert in our Friendship Focus (or listen to the recording at your convenience!)
- Download the monthly Connection Kit full of resources that include personal worksheets, inspirational memes, sharing questions, and more
- Stay accountable to your friendship goals by choosing and sharing a new Courageous Practice every month
- Access expert advice in our monthly Live Friendship Q/A Advice Call with Shasta
- Feel supported by our virtual community of women ready to encourage you, share their advice and tips with you, cheer for your successes, and resonate with your fears
- Go deeper by joining one of our virtual circles for sharing the highs-and-lows of friendship making with people like you (i.e. Child-free Friendships, Chronic Pain & Illness, Moms Need Playdates, Entrepreneurs)
- Attend or host a local event in your area to help bring women together face-to-face
For too long we have believed the myth that we simply need to find the right friend. But the truth is we need is to learn how to foster the right friendship.
In other words, our problem isn't only needing to meet more people as much as it is needing to know how to deepen the connections we already have.
And just like we can’t simply go to the gym once a month and expect to see results, neither can we simply keep hoping that our friendships will miraculously start, deepen, and stay healthy without our consistent attention and ongoing attention and practice.
About the book, Friendships Don't Just Happen!
In short, this is a book about how to create meaningful friendships as adults—going through the 5 steps from how to meet them and eventually leading to what I call Frientimacy—Friendship Intimacy. Most of us aren’t just craving more contacts, but actual real friends. This book is written for women to better understand which of the 5 types of friends we have, which ones we need right now, and to know how to develop those friendships that matter. The book is divided into three main parts:
- The first part, “From Loneliness to Frientimacy,” helps women identify their personal relational needs using Shasta’s 5 Circles of Connectedness and helps set healthy expectations.
- The second part, “Five Steps to Turn Friendly People We Meet into Friends Who Matter,” teaches the 5 Steps to Friendships, taking one chapter to cover each step: Be Open, Initiate Consistently, Add Positivity, Increase Vulnerability, and Practice Forgiveness.
- The third part, “Friendships Don’t Just Keep Happening: Be Intentional,” covers the five friendship threats—jealousy, judgment, non-reciprocation, neglect, and blame—and helps the reader end the book with a clear plan of how to move toward the friendships that matter most to her.
About the book, Frientimacy
In Frientimacy, award-winning speaker Shasta Nelson shows how anyone can form stronger, more meaningful friendships, marked by a level of trust she calls “frientimacy”. Shasta explores the most common complaints and conflicts facing female friendships today, and lays out strategies for overcoming these pitfalls to create deeper, supportive relationships that last for the long-term.
Shasta teaches readers to reject the impulse to pull away from friendships that aren’t instantly and constantly gratifying. With a warm, engaging, and inspiring voice, she shows how friendships built on dedication and commitment can lead to enriched relationships, stronger and more meaningful ties, and an overall increase in mental health. The book is divided into sections:
1. The Intimacy Gap, we’ll discuss what it means to acknowledge and own our intimacy gaps.
2. The Frientimacy Triangle, we’ll discuss the tri-fold approach to embracing and deepening frientimacy: by enhancing the positivity, consis- tency, and vulnerability in all our friendships.
3: Obstacles to Intimacy, we’ll discuss the various stumbling blocks that can trip up our path to frientimacy.
Then, in the conclusion, we’ll cover how we can measure how far we’ve come by tracking our growth in the areas of relationship growth, courage growth, and love.