You’re invited on a virtual journey to develop more meaningful friendships
join Shasta Nelson, the author of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Your Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness.
If I were to ask you how meaningful and deep your friendships feel to you on a scale of 1-10 (with 10 being the most fulfilling), what number would you answer?
If you’re like the vast majority of women, then you have what I call an “Intimacy Gap”—a gap between your current fulfillment levels versus what you wish it were. In fact, women are twice as likely to list as 1 or 2 as they are a 9 or 10 and about half of everyone surveyed self-reported under a 5.
- We have an epidemic of loneliness and for most of us it’s not because we don’t know enough people, but rather because we don’t feel close enough to the ones we already know.
- We are more networked than ever and yet often feeling like we have no net of friends beneath us.
- We don’t see each other often enough, feel safe enough to share too deeply, or feel good enough about them and their behaviors to feel the benefits of frientimacy.
I Invite You to Pause for Frientimacy
Join me, Shasta Nelson, for a virtual 42-day journey to move you into deeper friendships.
Forty-two days focused on frientimacy can only improve our lives.
Because deep friendships matter more to our health and happiness than almost any other thing!
Why pause? Because this isn’t a business course designed just to insert information into you as much as it’s a spiritual experience designed to help inspire you to take the time for one of the most crucial areas of our lives.
For 42 days we will commit to focus more on developing meaningful connection in our lives!
When & How?
For 42 days:
- Listen to a 1-hour class every week taught by Shasta Nelson (will be e-mailed to you every Sat am where you can choose to listen to it at the same time as others OR listen at your own convenience)
- Engage via private Facebook group with other students--asking questions and sharing insights.
- Receive three emails every week to help you go deeper: Mondays Reflection, Tuesdays Practice, and Thursdays Blessing.
All adult women who are open to deeper friendships are invited to participate. Technical requirements are low: just a phone and access to email.
Scroll down to see the Full Schedule.
OUR FRIENDSHIPS CAN BRING US THE BEST SNORTING LAUGHTER OUT THERE AND THE MORE SACRED OPPORTUNITIES FOR GROWTH. WE WANT IT ALL!
WE ARE GOING TO COMMIT TO A BEAUTIFUL, SACRED, AND TRANSFORMING PAUSE. WE ARE GOING TO DO IT TOGETHER.
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Week 1: Identifying Our Intimacy Gaps
Chances are high that you have an intimacy gap in your life. I’m not referring to the intimacy of a romantic relationship, but rather the lack of depth many of us feel in our friendship intimacy, or “frientimacy.” That is, a gap between the kind of friendships you want to have and the ones you do have. This isn’t to say your friends aren’t great people, or that you’re not a great friend. This is to say that, if you’re like most people, something in you knows that you have the capacity to both give and receive far more support, love, and intimacy than you currently enjoy.
In Week 1 we’ll look at why this journey is so important and identify our personal needs.
Week 2: The Way to Intimacy: The 3 Requirements to Deep Relationships
Frientimacy isn’t the goal with all our friends, but it most certainly is the goal, over time, with a few of our friends. Overall, most of us need two things: far more moments of intimacy with many people, and more consistent intimacy with a few people. Deep down, we want to be seen, connected, and accepted by many—and we can be.
In Week 2 we’ll look at understanding what frientimacy is, what three actions are required to be in any friendship, and how we can fix, repair, or enhance nearly any relationship in our lives.
Week 3: The Gap of Giving and Receiving
I’ve surveyed more than one thousand women on this subject. Only 26 percent feel the giving is shared equally, and a whopping 60 percent of us believe we do most of the giving in our relationships. Even the 26 percent who view their relationships as mutual tend to believe other women are more likely to be takers than givers. So we can’t talk about giving more positivity to our relationships if we’re fearful, tired, or frustrated at the idea of giving anything more.
In Week 3 we’ll explore many of the reasons why friendships can often feel out of balance, and more importantly: what we can do about it to create relationships that feel rewarding.
Week 4: The Gap of Inconsistent Time Together
The belief that we don’t have time for meaningful connections is easily the number-one complaint I hear as to why it’s so hard to foster substantial relationships. Even with those who feel they have time for friends say their friendships suffer because their friends don’t make time for them.
In Week 4 we’ll re-affirm why relationships need our time and deserve our priority in our lives, and look at four practices for how we can invest in our friendships.
Week 5: The Gap of Updating Vs. Sharing
Is a willingness to tell anyone anything the sign of a healthy person? Does being authentic mean we have no secrets? Do we have to tell people the worst about us in order to bond with them? Is sharing our insecurities a strategy to starting a friendship? Is something wrong with us if we feel cautious when we reveal significant parts of ourselves? Does being vulnerable mean digging through our emotional closets? While we’re encouraged to “be more vulnerable,” we’re rarely taught what that actually looks like, when it’s appropriate, and how to practice it safely. That leaves most of us erring on one side or the other: Either we over share or we bottle up.
In Week 5 we’ll dive deep to understand the five actions that make up vulnerability so that we can feel safe while we bond with others in meaningful ways.
Week 6: The Role of Frustration and Forgiveness in Friendship
Many believe that friendships are supposed to be easy and comfortable: pain free, all fun, total joy. I’ve heard many quip, “I don’t do drama” as though they are so enlightened that they can’t be bothered with anything that feels messy. But the truth is that conflict and change is part of any healthy relationship, and so we must cease viewing our collisions as bad signs and instead see them as invitations for growth and depth.
In Week 6 we have to look at how frustration and disappointment is part of relationships and how to handle it in a way that keeps the relationship healthy. We’ll explore the 4 stages of relationship and how to know when to cut our losses or lean in for repair.
Week 7: Live Q&A with Shasta Nelson
In Week 7 you get to ask any question you have and I’ll help coach you through a friendship challenge, offer advice, or expand on any area of interest that you have. You will be able to submit your questions by email or ask them live. We’ll learn and grown together!